With regards to the global Covid culture and movements. What do you believe? What are the hidden influences in your identification with these beliefs? Can you accept that you don’t actually know for sure and that you might be wrong? Or are you really sure about your views? To what degree can you separate your personal experience with your ideas and beliefs about what is going on in the world?
Stories & beliefs are an extremely powerful thing. Our beliefs in stories over the ages have taken us into war many times, genocides have occurred, witches burned, lands annexed, all manner of atrocities have been committed over the ages as a result of our beliefs in stories and our unbending willingness to fight for what we believe and these wars are very often just stories and counter-stories fighting with one another through us. Opposites attempting to reintegrate themselves through the vehicle of conflict.
Story Vs Counter-Story
There is presently a story being told by societies and the mainstream media globally. It is about a virus and how we have to protect our health services and each other by wearing masks, self-isolating, locking down & taking vaccines. There are many of us who believe in this story whole-heartedly. For every story told there is of course a counter-story. The counter-story is the direct opposite of the story being told. The counter-story in this instance is that all the global governments and media outlets are co-conspirators in a giant set of lies fuelled by lobbying from the pharmaceutical industries and a handful of billionaires including B-ll Gates. That all alternative information sources and statistics around the real dangers of Covid-19 & the effectiveness and safety of vaccines is being actively suppressed by the mainstream media. So are you mainly a believer in the story or the counter-story? What side are you taking?
Polarization as a symptom of unresolved trauma: The Pleaser vs The Rebel
There are two major survival based sub-personalities that we learn to behave out of as children in order for us to survive overwhelming and difficult experiences growing up. The first is The pleaser.
The Pleaser never challenges the parents, they do everything they possibly can to make sure they behave in a way that never causes the parents any possible disturbance. This is a childhood learned survival response, the belief is ‘unless my parents/society except me I am not OK’. The second is The Rebel. The rebel challenges everything the parent tells them, also unable to receive the genuine love that deep down their parent has for them. The Rebel questions everything and believes that nothing that comes in from the outside can be trusted and that all power is corrupt. The belief is ‘unless I pit myself against my parents/society then I do not exist’. It is my hypothesis that mostly pleasers believe the story and mostly rebels believe the counter-story and their identification with these opposing sides is unconsciously rooted in the survival impulse and connected to their unresolved traumas. Therefore both sides end up in conflict with one another. Which side do you find yourself on in the great debate happening around Covid?
Awakening the truth within: What we have to learn from one another?
The burning question I have is can the immense beauty of who we are become apparent without the need for us to collectively go through war and conflict with one another? With all my heart I long for the answer to this question to be yes we can realize beauty without going through war but the truth is I really don’t know. Maybe war and conflict is unavoidable? Is war simply what needs to happen in order for collective tensions to be alleviated successfully? One thing I do believe is that by becoming aware of who we are and why we defend the positions that we choose to stand by, we can become the solution itself. Every human has to make their own choices in this regard. I believe we can choose to be aware of the sides that we take and what lies beneath the loyalty we have for those sides and from this awareness we can choose to remain empathic with the whole rather than getting drawn into conflict. We all take sides, the question is how honest can we be with ourselves about the sides we are taking? Maybe we all have something to teach one another? Maybe rebels teach the power of questioning and Pleasers teach the power of compassion? Maybe none of us really know what the truth about anything is? Maybe we are just doing the best we can to not lose ourselves in an ocean of overwhelm?
Questions that move us forward from here, am I ready to be love rather than remaining stuck in what stops love from flowing? Do I recognize myself as love? Freedom? Power? Beauty? Am I ready to let go of thinking that I know the truth and surrender to being the truth?! Can I stand in my power knowing that there isn’t anyone or anything on this planet or beyond that can ever take this power that I am away from me. There are no external authorities to fight, only unresolved traumas playing themselves out on a collective level to be witnessed and compassionate understanding to be cultivated and shared with those around me?
What side of this debate do you often find yourself on and where is that rooted in your life experience? Are you ready to consciously own that loyalty and find greater compassion for the whole? I believe our hearts are much bigger than these polarized games we play, lets all grow in love together?
Anu Azrael